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A Prayer for Growing as a Godly Wife

A Prayer for Growing as a Godly Wife

Marriage is one of God’s most beautiful and refining gifts. It is a relationship designed not just for our happiness, but for our holiness — a daily opportunity to display grace, patience, and steadfast love in ways that reflect God’s covenant with his people. Yet, even in its beauty, marriage can be difficult. Our selfishness gets in the way, words fall short, and weariness sometimes takes over. This prayer is an invitation to come before the Lord with honesty, gratitude, and hope, asking him to strengthen our hearts, shape our character, and teach us to love our spouses with a Christlike devotion that endures through every season.

A Prayer Based on Proverbs 31:10-12

Proverbs 31:10-12 (ESV): An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.

Dear Heavenly Father,

You are good and gracious, faithful in all your ways. You are the giver of every good and perfect gift, and I praise you for the wisdom you pour out through your word. You alone are worthy of my highest affection and deepest trust. You formed the foundations of the earth, and you fashioned me in your image. In your kindness, you established marriage as a reflection of your covenant love — a place where grace, mercy, and steadfast love can be displayed day after day. I praise you for being a God who cares about the details of our relationships and calls us to a life of love that mirrors your own.

Father, I come confessing that my heart is often divided. Too easily I slip into selfishness, pursuing my own desires and comforts rather than seeking to serve my husband with the kindness and wisdom you desire. I confess that impatience, pride, and a critical spirit sometimes take root where gentleness and grace should dwell. Forgive me for the moments when I have spoken words that tear down rather than build up, for times when I have withheld encouragement or chosen silence when I ought to have spoken life. Cleanse me, Lord, and renew a right spirit within me.

I thank you, Lord, for the husband you have given me. While neither of us is perfect, I rejoice that you knit our lives together for your purposes. Thank you for the ways he reflects your image, for his strengths, his gifts, and even for the challenges that sharpen me and reveal my need for you. I am grateful for the trust that grows between us and for the glimpses of your goodness that marriage offers. Help me to treasure him as a precious gift and to see your handiwork in his life.

Teach me, Father, to be an excellent wife — not according to the fleeting standards of this world, but by the wisdom of your word. Make me trustworthy, that my husband’s heart may safely rest in me. Let my words be seasoned with grace and my actions marked by goodness. Help me to do him good, not harm, all the days of my life, as Proverbs 31 teaches. Shape my character to be more like Christ’s: patient, kind, humble, and enduring. Fill my heart with wisdom, that I might build our home with care.

In seasons of ease and in times of trial, remind me that you are the source of lasting joy and strength. May our marriage reflect your steadfast love, and may our lives together bring glory to your name. I ask all these things in the name of Jesus, my Redeemer and Lord.

In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

Respond

Please pray a prayer about being a godly person, wife, and/or husband.

If you aren’t sure where to begin, you can use the ACTS method: Adoration, Confession, Thankfulness, and Supplication:

  • Adoration: Praise God. Does this topic bring any specific characteristics of God to mind?
  • Confession: Tell God that you are sorry for specific sins. Does this topic bring any specific sins to mind?
  • Thankfulness: Show gratitude towards God. Does anything from this topic inspire gratitude?
  • Supplication: Make requests for yourself and for others. Does anything from this topic inspire a prayer?

If helpful, you can use a prayer journal template.

A Prayer for Growing as a Godly Wife
Proverbs 31:10-12 (ESV): An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.
Psalm 51:10 (ESV): Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
1 Corinthians 13:4-6 (ESV): Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.
1 Corinthians 13:7 (ESV): Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
Proverbs 14:1 (ESV): The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.

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